The right attitude of the child towards the parents

The solution of your problem is directly related with how much distance you can take from your mother; with how much distance you can take from your parents. Not meant is physical distance. People who remain at a distance physically of their parents are often most entangled with them. To be able to take distance from your parents in the sense of living your own life, it is first necessary to allow yourself to be embraced by them (this is also possible if they have died already).

When you started to take care of your parents as a child, it is not easy sometimes to get back the positition of the child again and to just receive from your parents. You have to let go of the wrong position as parent-of-your-parent and you have to let go of your ego; taking care of your parent had become part of your identity. If you let go of that, first there is a big hole. A hole, you have to hold out. From there a new identity arises; an identity from which your life really can start flowing... ruit je leven pas echt kan gaan stromen...

I am grateful for this insight that comes from the Family Constellations. I am also grateful toSvagito Liebermeister , from whom I have received my training and who has laid the foundations of my deepening in and facilitating of family constellations. You are welcome to experience the healing effect of family constellations in an individual session, a group session or a family constellation weekend. More information you find on my website.